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I guess my Higher Power lets me pout for awhile, then shows me the gifts…. ((((((Donnah)))))) The pouting is called a "pity party" and we all need them from time to time. I think we need pity parties because they drain out enough of our unessential junk that just brings us down. When the junk is drained out, we are ready to see things as they really are. There are good reasons for our down times. You have a wonderful way of expressing your feelings, Donnah and because of that you will get through all of your turmoils in good shape! You go girl!! I’m so glad Nick saw the light and is now able to see how much he truly values you. Have fun picking out that wonderful new crutch! I love my forearm crutches! They were so much easier than a walker or the regular crutches when I was not able to put weight on my leg. Take care Donnah!! Carol
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Carol, thank you, thank you!! I also chose the forearm crutches, but will be using just one for my left side. I was so thrilled at the difference in my posture and less pain in the back and hip …and I am finding out there is a greater side to Nick then I knew existed…it probably got lost in the turmoil of all the surgeries, infections, etc…..so instead of leaving him ’cause his attitude stunk, I am staying in this comfortable old home….we are taking it very slowly and that makes me very content….. donnah
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I guess my Higher Power lets me pout for awhile, then shows me the > gifts…. > ((((((Donnah)))))) The pouting is called a "pity party" and we all > need them from time to time. I think we need pity parties because > they drain out enough of our unessential junk that just brings us > down. When the junk is drained out, we are ready to see things as > they really are. There are good reasons for our down times. > You have a wonderful way of expressing your feelings, Donnah and > because of that you will get through all of your turmoils in good > shape! You go girl!! > I’m so glad Nick saw the light and is now able to see how much he > truly values you. > Have fun picking out that wonderful new crutch! I love my forearm > crutches! They were so much easier than a walker or the regular > crutches when I was not able to put weight on my leg. > Take care Donnah!! > Carol
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Donnah, you always amaze me at the way you manage to bring humor into even your whines and the way you have of so beautifully saying what you are going through. Even more so, I am inspired by the way you manage to so quickly turn to the positive. And it is wonderful that this has at least brought some healing for you and Nick. Something good coming out of such difficulties is a real gift. (((((Donnah))))) — Nann remove the Gator cheer to email me I like nonsense; it wakes up the brain cells. – Dr Suess
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Yahoooooooo!!! Really good to read this Donnah! May Nick continue to be gentle and may you both find new love and respect for each other!!! Hugs! Donna G
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…..so instead of leaving him ’cause his attitude stunk, I am staying in this comfortable old home….we are taking it very slowly and that makes me very content….. donnah Donnah, that is the very BEST news! Best wishes to you both. Gwen
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thanks…at this point I ‘m just glad I have some one to do windows LOL…sorry, warped aren’t I.. it’s actually been all right…he still has his head and I have some of mine ..and he has started a new job…going back to wok with behaviorally disturbed kids….and I HELPED!!…if he could handle me the past month, he can handle anything.. seriously, he was offered top salary to go to work there..2nd shift which is what I will be working when I return although our days off are not the same….won’t have time to do anything but be friendly 
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Yahoooooooo!!! > Really good to read this Donnah! May Nick continue to be gentle and may > you both find new love and respect for each other!!! > Hugs! > Donna G
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Gwen, thank you! donnah
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> …..so instead of leaving him ’cause his attitude stunk, I > am staying in this comfortable old home….we are taking it very slowly and > that makes me very content….. > donnah > Donnah, that is the very BEST news! Best wishes to you both. > Gwen
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Thank you, Nann. I have much to be grateful for…so very much. donnah
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Donnah, you always amaze me at the way you manage to bring humor into even > your whines and the way you have of so beautifully saying what you are going > through. Even more so, I am inspired by the way you manage to so quickly > turn to the positive. And it is wonderful that this has at least brought > some healing for you and Nick. Something good coming out of such > difficulties is a real gift. > (((((Donnah))))) > — > Nann > remove the Gator cheer to email me > I like nonsense; it wakes up the brain cells. – Dr Suess
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Happened to run into my old neurologist today [that is one sweet man]. His specialty is MS and I was surprised to see him as he has retired. He told me he only comes in one day a week for research now — all of his patients have been sorted to others. So I asked him. He said maybe I meant Zocor [it is a drug for high cholesterol]. He says they have found cholesterol drugs seem to help with MS energy. Although drugs for depression are given too for depression. Still haven’t looked for that article which was posted here but at least we will be looking for the right drug. Duckie
… Zoloft helping MS patients
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I take Zocor for Cholesterol, and you must have your liver checked the same as with some of the arthritis medications. Gwen
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Tell Nick prayers are ongoing for success on his new job. You two having the same work hours will be good. Gwen
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Duckie, thanks! I’ll google asap…donnah
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Happened to run into my old neurologist today [that is one sweet man]. > His specialty is MS and I was surprised to see him as he has retired. He > told me he only comes in one day a week for research now — all of his > patients have been sorted to others. So I asked him. > He said maybe I meant Zocor [it is a drug for high cholesterol]. He says > they have found cholesterol drugs seem to help with MS energy. Although > drugs for depression are given too for depression. > Still haven’t looked for that article which was posted here but at least > we will be looking for the right drug. > Duckie > … Zoloft helping MS patients
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>.2nd shift which is >what I will be working when I return although our days off are not the >same..
Sugar-With this new diagnosis, do you think it might be time to apply for SS Disability. I know you dont want to give in to what is happening to your body, but maybe conserving your resourse, should be moved up your list of priorities? Just a thought. Char "Remember, I’m pulling for ya’. We’re all in this together." Red Green
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I’m thinking too, Char….really want to wait until my follow up with the neuro so I can make an "informed decision". ….or at least something close to it donnah
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->.2nd shift which is >what I will be working when I return although our days off are not the >same.. > Sugar-With this new diagnosis, do you think it might be time to apply for SS > Disability. I know you dont want to give in to what is happening to your body, > but maybe conserving your resourse, should be moved up your list of priorities? > Just a thought. > Char > "Remember, I’m pulling for ya’. > We’re all in this together." Red Green
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> I’m thinking too, Char….really want to wait until my follow up with the > neuro so I can make an "informed decision". > ….or at least something close to it > donnah
I’m glad to hear you’re thinking about it. Whichever way it goes for now, it can help to come to terms with the possibility. — Nann remove the Gator cheer to email me I like nonsense; it wakes up the brain cells. – Dr Suess
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Nann, it hurts my hair to think so hard…but, I have to be realistic…falling because of my knee giving out is not a good thing…and I drove yesterday and it dislocated..mucho pain putting it back…now have an elephant leg..can’t stand ice so I did the heat thing today and the pee pill and the swelling is some what better.. ..and found out that once I start meds for the MS it can make the surgery more dangerous…but they can watch for the fever from the happy gas ((Nann)) I bragged too much about the weather…I have my heat on now!…well, that will teach me to crow within earshot of Mother Nature… praying you and Mike are feeling safe and good and hopeful and patient donnah
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I’m thinking too, Char….really want to wait until my follow up with the > neuro so I can make an "informed decision". > ….or at least something close to it > donnah > I’m glad to hear you’re thinking about it. Whichever way it goes for now, it > can help to come to terms with the possibility. > — > Nann > remove the Gator cheer to email me > I like nonsense; it wakes up the brain cells. – Dr Suess
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>..falling because of my knee giving out is not a good thing…and >I drove yesterday and it dislocated..
Your knee dislocated and you put it back in place yourself? Oh, damn, damn, DAMN that must have hurt. You are way tougher than I am girl. Char "Remember, I’m pulling for ya’. We’re all in this together." Red Green
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LOL..not tougher..just wanted to get home asap…and I wasn’t doing the firemen bit again no matter how good looking they are…hmmm, was in more pain then I thought if I didn’t want them around <G> it’s better today although it could pass as a ham hock… donnah
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->..falling because of my knee giving out is not a good thing…and >I drove yesterday and it dislocated.. > Your knee dislocated and you put it back in place yourself? Oh, damn, damn, > DAMN that must have hurt. > You are way tougher than I am girl. > Char > "Remember, I’m pulling for ya’. > We’re all in this together." Red Green
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My grandson’s shoulder dislocated twice in a basketball game, and he got it back both times, but the muscles in his arm and back were very sore for a couple of weeks. Imagine you are going to be sore for some time too, Donnah. Sure sorry that happened. Gwen
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thanks, Gwen..I’m going to charm school for old gimps soon…donnah
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> My grandson’s shoulder dislocated twice in a basketball game, and he got it > back both times, but the muscles in his arm and back were very sore for a > couple of weeks. Imagine you are going to be sore for some time too, Donnah. > Sure sorry that happened. > Gwen
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Donnah-That is just wonderful news about you and Nick. That has got to have removed a huge stone from you heart and mind. You are an amazing lady, and you are going to come through this with flying colors. You have been thru worse and survived. You will come thru this too. Prayers continuing for you Sweetie. God Bless- Char "Remember, I’m pulling for ya’. We’re all in this together." Red Green
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My heart is lifted at the news about Nick. Looks like he grew tall during that ER visit. And even better — it showed you both how much he loves you. Better days are coming. While I can still remember it — days ago, I heard a tidbit on the news about Zoloft helping MS patients with their symptoms. Can someone route out that bit of medical info for Donnah. To tired to at the moment — physical therapy was this afternoon and since 8:30am there has been banging going on in the downstairs bathroom. Looks like the medicine cabinet, counter top and sink cabinet, lots of wall and the tiles that covered them are all in the dumpster. Tub is still there — guess that is tomorrow’s work. Hugs to you Donnah. Sorry my mind trailed off like that. Duckie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Thanks to all of you for the hugs and cards and emails and love and > support….I am swimming out of this ocean of depression toward the > shoreline….am so grateful for all of you.. > each of you has a unique gift in the way you give support and advice…and > that is so good…as I need it, it is provided at just the right time… > what a talented and giving family we are… > …you dried my tears and gave me hope > …you helped me believe in my ability to handle it > …you were unconditional in your love > …you were tolerant of my tantrums–aka CoJo > …you surrounded me with the protection of a family that has been there, > done that and that’s more precious than gold or chocolate > all of you stay in my prayers, my sunset songs, my mediations….for > foot-stomping joy…for trust in yourself and your Higher Power…for > gratitude that life is still to be enjoyed…that you know that you are > loved by a group of people who choose to love, forgive, accept… > I am rich > …I did not win the lottery yet > …seeing double gives me many more wildflowers to see > …" " " ” more cardinals and chickadees > … ditto for stud muffins, lobster boys, and the cabannas > It also makes me read my beloved books slowly enough to truly grasp the > meanings and/or develop my own > The fuzzy thinking has cleared many of my intolerances and prejudices…ones > that I didn’t know I had ! > Hopefully I will get my new crutch soon and will have the security of more > than the toothpick I am using…and my RD encouraged me to go to my DME > place and get what I felt comfortable with…not telling me what to get > And this is a BIGGIE…Nick went through a shock when they were working on > me at the ER and the days following…when he realized that he may lose me > in a different way than just moving out…he asked me to forgive him for his > past actions and volunteered to take care of me no matter what….this after > the neuro told him I would need extra help until they finalized the dx and > started treatment…he never left my side except to eat and go home to > sleep.. > he has treated me with respect..has made no complaints..we have learned to > laugh together again.. > …we have a budding FRIENDSHIP….I do not think of what may or may not > develop… > …we are sharing our joy at the first grandchild being born > …baseball has started—did you see me throw out the > first ball? LOL…girl throw! > I guess my Higher Power lets me pout for awhile, then shows me the gifts…. > as Fra Giovanni said in the 1500 hundreds…." everything we call a trial, a > sorrow or a duty, believe me..the gift is there and so is the wonder of an > overshadowing presence." > donnah > — > If You Are Going Through Hell… > Keep Going!
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{{{{{Donnah}}}}} So glad to hear the good news. Sometimes it takes a "wake-up call", doesn’t it? Cindy R.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Thanks to all of you for the hugs and cards and emails and love and > support….I am swimming out of this ocean of depression toward the > shoreline….am so grateful for all of you.. > each of you has a unique gift in the way you give support and advice…and > that is so good…as I need it, it is provided at just the right time… > what a talented and giving family we are… > …you dried my tears and gave me hope > …you helped me believe in my ability to handle it > …you were unconditional in your love > …you were tolerant of my tantrums–aka CoJo > …you surrounded me with the protection of a family that has been there, > done that and that’s more precious than gold or chocolate > all of you stay in my prayers, my sunset songs, my mediations….for > foot-stomping joy…for trust in yourself and your Higher Power…for > gratitude that life is still to be enjoyed…that you know that you are > loved by a group of people who choose to love, forgive, accept… > I am rich > …I did not win the lottery yet > …seeing double gives me many more wildflowers to see > …" " " ” more cardinals and chickadees > … ditto for stud muffins, lobster boys, and the cabannas > It also makes me read my beloved books slowly enough to truly grasp the > meanings and/or develop my own > The fuzzy thinking has cleared many of my intolerances and prejudices…ones > that I didn’t know I had ! > Hopefully I will get my new crutch soon and will have the security of more > than the toothpick I am using…and my RD encouraged me to go to my DME > place and get what I felt comfortable with…not telling me what to get > And this is a BIGGIE…Nick went through a shock when they were working on > me at the ER and the days following…when he realized that he may lose me > in a different way than just moving out…he asked me to forgive him for his > past actions and volunteered to take care of me no matter what….this after > the neuro told him I would need extra help until they finalized the dx and > started treatment…he never left my side except to eat and go home to > sleep.. > he has treated me with respect..has made no complaints..we have learned to > laugh together again.. > …we have a budding FRIENDSHIP….I do not think of what may or may not > develop… > …we are sharing our joy at the first grandchild being born > …baseball has started—did you see me throw out the > first ball? LOL…girl throw! > I guess my Higher Power lets me pout for awhile, then shows me the gifts…. > as Fra Giovanni said in the 1500 hundreds…." everything we call a trial, a > sorrow or a duty, believe me..the gift is there and so is the wonder of an > overshadowing presence." > donnah > — > If You Are Going Through Hell… > Keep Going!
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yeah, it does, Cindy R….that it does! donnah
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> {{{{{Donnah}}}}} > So glad to hear the good news. Sometimes it takes a "wake-up call", doesn’t > it? > Cindy R. > Thanks to all of you for the hugs and cards and emails and love and > support….I am swimming out of this ocean of depression toward the > shoreline….am so grateful for all of you.. > each of you has a unique gift in the way you give support and advice…and > that is so good…as I need it, it is provided at just the right time… > what a talented and giving family we are… > …you dried my tears and gave me hope > …you helped me believe in my ability to handle it > …you were unconditional in your love > …you were tolerant of my tantrums–aka CoJo > …you surrounded me with the protection of a family that has been there, > done that and that’s more precious than gold or chocolate > all of you stay in my prayers, my sunset songs, my mediations….for > foot-stomping joy…for trust in yourself and your Higher Power…for > gratitude that life is still to be enjoyed…that you know that you are > loved by a group of people who choose to love, forgive, accept… > I am rich > …I did not win the lottery yet > …seeing double gives me many more wildflowers to see > …" " " ” more cardinals and chickadees > … ditto for stud muffins, lobster boys, and the cabannas > It also makes me read my beloved books slowly enough to truly grasp the > meanings and/or develop my own > The fuzzy thinking has cleared many of my intolerances and > prejudices…ones > that I didn’t know I had ! > Hopefully I will get my new crutch soon and will have the security of more > than the toothpick I am using…and my RD encouraged me to go to my DME > place and get what I felt comfortable with…not telling me what to get > And this is a BIGGIE…Nick went through a shock when they were working on > me at the ER and the days following…when he realized that he may lose me > in a different way than just moving out…he asked me to forgive him for > his > past actions and volunteered to take care of me no matter what….this > after > the neuro told him I would need extra help until they finalized the dx and > started treatment…he never left my side except to eat and go home to > sleep.. > he has treated me with respect..has made no complaints..we have learned to > laugh together again.. > …we have a budding FRIENDSHIP….I do not think of what may or may not > develop… > …we are sharing our joy at the first grandchild being born > …baseball has started—did you see me throw out the > first ball? LOL…girl throw! > I guess my Higher Power lets me pout for awhile, then shows me the > gifts…. > as Fra Giovanni said in the 1500 hundreds…." everything we call a trial, > a > sorrow or a duty, believe me..the gift is there and so is the wonder of an > overshadowing presence." > donnah > — > If You Are Going Through Hell… > Keep Going!
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Thanks to all of you for the hugs and cards and emails and love and support….I am swimming out of this ocean of depression toward the shoreline….am so grateful for all of you.. each of you has a unique gift in the way you give support and advice…and that is so good…as I need it, it is provided at just the right time… what a talented and giving family we are… …you dried my tears and gave me hope …you helped me believe in my ability to handle it …you were unconditional in your love …you were tolerant of my tantrums–aka CoJo …you surrounded me with the protection of a family that has been there, done that and that’s more precious than gold or chocolate all of you stay in my prayers, my sunset songs, my mediations….for foot-stomping joy…for trust in yourself and your Higher Power…for gratitude that life is still to be enjoyed…that you know that you are loved by a group of people who choose to love, forgive, accept… I am rich …I did not win the lottery yet …seeing double gives me many more wildflowers to see …" " " ” more cardinals and chickadees … ditto for stud muffins, lobster boys, and the cabannas It also makes me read my beloved books slowly enough to truly grasp the meanings and/or develop my own The fuzzy thinking has cleared many of my intolerances and prejudices…ones that I didn’t know I had ! Hopefully I will get my new crutch soon and will have the security of more than the toothpick I am using…and my RD encouraged me to go to my DME place and get what I felt comfortable with…not telling me what to get And this is a BIGGIE…Nick went through a shock when they were working on me at the ER and the days following…when he realized that he may lose me in a different way than just moving out…he asked me to forgive him for his past actions and volunteered to take care of me no matter what….this after the neuro told him I would need extra help until they finalized the dx and started treatment…he never left my side except to eat and go home to sleep.. he has treated me with respect..has made no complaints..we have learned to laugh together again.. …we have a budding FRIENDSHIP….I do not think of what may or may not develop… …we are sharing our joy at the first grandchild being born …baseball has started—did you see me throw out the first ball? LOL…girl throw! I guess my Higher Power lets me pout for awhile, then shows me the gifts…. as Fra Giovanni said in the 1500 hundreds…." everything we call a trial, a sorrow or a duty, believe me..the gift is there and so is the wonder of an overshadowing presence." donnah — If You Are Going Through Hell… Keep Going!